Working Through the judgment of solo travel

The most common questions I get when traveling solo or talking about solo travel are:

1. You don't travel with your husband???

My standard response: "Correct, I am a solo traveler." 

This doesn't mean I don't love my husband!

This doesn't mean we don't have a healthy relationship. In fact, it's quite the opposite! My husband respects that I need the downtime to reset and refuel. He knows I LOVE adventure! And he honestly admits we aren't always on the same page about it. For him, he is perfectly happy with long guy weekends; fishing, golfing, and playing poker. For us, it is invaluable to have time and space to let off steam, recharge, and come back to one another as a better spouse. 

2. Is it SAFE???

I wouldn't be going if I didn't feel safe! And let's define SAFE for a moment!...

Did the people in Aurora, Colorado feel safe going to a Batman movie at midnight? Do parents and children feel safe heading off to school for the day? Unfortunately tragedy can strike anytime, any place. 

Do I do my due diligence in going to Travel.State.Gov? Absolutely! Do I look at it with a level head and ask questions? Absolutely! Do I practice safety no matter where I am in the world? Absolutely!

So my standard response is always, "Define safe."

More to come from conversations with a guest blogger, who is a female cop and friend of mine! Stay tuned!

Perhaps the greatest judgments are not the questions we receive, but what so many women tell themselves when thinking of dining alone. I hear women constantly stating what they ASSUME people are thinking: That poor woman must be so lonely. She must not have anyone to travel with.

Being a yoga instructor, I have to share, that one of the 8 limbs of yoga is ahimsa. Practicing ahimsa is practicing love and kindness towards yourself. Don't let anyone, including you and your thoughts, rob you of joy!

There are so many ways you can work through your own judgment. One way to work through is daily mantra. Your mantra can be as simple as, "Nobody cares that I am alone. I am not alone when I have me."

In order to be a solo traveler at a soul level, it is most important to shift your mind frame when it comes to the questions from the people in your life and the questions that come from within. I am happy to work through the judgments with you. Remember Coaching is a safe, confidential space, free of judgments.

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